“It is true that people don’t really understand what midwives do - perhaps that in itself is a reflection of their professionalism, as they quietly touch a family’s life in the most precious moments”—Stanley (2005) in “Labour of Love” (via midwife-marlee)
Today marks the seventeenth anniversary of the largest act of genocide in Western Europe post WWII. More than 8300 boys and men were massacred from the 11-22 July 1995.
It is an event largely forgotten and ignored in today’s society; probably because Muslim blood is cheap, right?
It still makes me so angry and that I can’t even form coherent sentences. I am sure there are people here who are much more articulate than me when it comes to this, with university degrees in various subjects and an inherently larger vocabulary than mine, but I’m so angry that everyone is so ignorant about this massive event in the recent history of humanity that I have to say something too.
Mostly what I find astounding is the lack of attention it gets. More than 8000 people EXECUTED. It’s mass murder, it’s genocide, and it’s never even mentioned.
The worst part of the genocide, if you were unaware, was that Srebrenica was a UN declared ‘safe area’ where many people had fled during the war; they were refugees, killed because of their religion.
Can you just imagine for a second how absolutely horrific that is?
I think it is hugely important for us to remember horrific events such as this, because they contribute to our humanity and our compassion and ensure that we, as the collective human race, never forget the past wrongs so that they are never repeated again. That’s why we don’t forget the Holocaust, or the Rwandan Genocide or 9/11 or the two World Wars or Nero or the Crusades.
There isn’t a worldwide commemoration for this genocide, but I will not forget, for the rest of my life. Because the lives of every one of those men and children killed was precious, as are the lives of every other human being alive on this planet. I believe in the sanctity of life, without discrimination based on race, religion, culture, whatever the hell you can think of.
“Daniel Tosh perpetuates rape culture and his response to that “heckler” was to silence her, which is what happens when women speak up and demand to be treated as humans with feelings who do not want to be treated as jokes and do not want to have the most humiliating violation of their bodies to be punchlines. As long as Tosh is on the air, men will continue to see nothing wrong with rape and rape culture—and the women who speak out against it are “bitches” and “ignorant sluts”.”—Kathleen Quinlan, Take Daniel Tosh Off the Air (via limegl0wstix)
I think Tosh apologists think that they’re defending the right for comedians to exercise free speech, even about controversial topics like rape.
But since Tosh’s comment was not a joke, rather an angry response to a woman interrupting his set, his apologists are actually defending the right for men to use the idea of rape in order to silence a woman who needs to be put in her place.
Male privilege is being able to bully all the women you work with into giving you your way, then telling anyone who has the courage to stand up to you that they’re overreacting, being too emotional and acting “bitchy”, and knowing that none of your male managers will ever challenge your behavior.
“You are a midwife, assisting at someone else’s birth. Do good without show or fuss. Facilitate what is happening rather than what you think ought to be happening. If you must take the lead, lead so that the mother is helped, yet still free and in charge. When the baby is born the mother will rightly say: We did ourselves”—
If we’ve learned anything from the Tosh incident it’s that nope, women can’t react proactively when threatened with offensive speech because if we do, the guy with the mic can wish gang rape on us and be cheered on by the internet at large while doing it.
If anyone has ever wondered why someone hasn’t spoken up when offended in the moment, this is why.
“[TW: Rape Culture] But humor loses all potential for redemption when it is used in a way that makes marginalized, victimized people feel unsafe, unwanted, and invisible. That is how I feel when you make a rape joke. You made the worst, most heart-breaking, most disempowering trauma I have ever been through, and you made it into a joke. You made my suffering into a punch line. I hope that was not your intention, but those are the impacts of your words that you could have just as easily kept to yourself.”—
I actually just sat at my desk and cried when I read this. This is everything I’ve been wanting to say the past few days, and now I feel so overwhelmed and happy that I found it. Oh god, thank you. THANK YOU.
“Within the model minority rhetoric, Asian Americans are represented as “good” minorities and African Americans are represented as “bad” minorities. Here, the achievements of Asian Americans are used to discipline African Americans. As model minorities, Asian Americans achieved the status of “honorary Whites”. Again it is important to point out that the honorary whiteness of Asian Americans was granted at the expense of Blacks. It is also significant that as “honorary Whites,” Asian Americans do not have the actual privileges associated with “real” whiteness.”—Jennifer Lee (via wretchedoftheearth)
“Be soft. Do not let the world make you hard. Do not let pain make you hate. Do not let the bitterness steal your sweetness. Take pride that even though the rest of the world may disagree, you still believe it to be a beautiful place.”—Kurt Vonnegut (via cosmofilius)
Women who have sex are shamed by being called sluts. Women who don’t have sex are shamed by being considered boring prudes. Women who watch after themselves at public events are deemed man-hating spawns of Lucifer. Women who are comfortable in public are loose bitches who are asking for sexual assault. Women who are independent and career driven are labeled intimidating and unapproachable, especially women of color, even though reports continue to show successful women are willing to forsake their own standards to settle own. Women who would rather be stay at home moms are criticized for being lazy and contributing nothing, which again proves why motherhood and the tedious never yielding tasks that come with it are underappreciated.
Theres no winning if you are a woman. Someone is going to have a problem with you no matter what you do. It’s womanhood that’s the problem, not sexual activity.
“**TRIGGER WARNING: RAPE** The experience of being raped has touched every aspect of my life. People like Ron Rosenberg, the PR head for Tomb Raider, tend to talk about rape like it’s some character-building challenge to overcome, a wound that heals into scar tissue, making you tougher. That’s a fundamental misunderstanding. Rape isn’t a scar, it’s a limp — you carry it with you as long as you’re alive, and it makes life harder, not easier. Being raped does change you: it’s more than non-consensual sex, it’s psychic murder. The person you were beforehand ceases to exist and you can never, ever be them again.”—
According to the pregnancy apps I have on my phone (having pregnancy apps bothers me for some reason I can’t put my finger on), if little baby was born this week, she would have a 99% chance of surviving and thriving. So I guess the next 6-8 weeks is just gravy? Fatten her up, sweeten her up, let her little lungs get more mature. And for me, a chance to move into our actual space (after it is built), get things set up and settled, to get ready for labor, to get as ready as I can for motherhood.
I’m feeling scared because I won’t have as much postpartum support as I thought I would. Because J had to take ten (unpaid) days off for his grad residency, he can’t really take much time off after W is born…probably only a day or two. And unless she comes early, baby will be born right around the time my mom and sisters go back to school. We don’t have much any money to hire a postpartum doula and I have no extended family in the area. All I can come up with is seeing if my mom’s best friend would be willing to help me out that first week. As I told J, I don’t want a baby nurse or someone to take care of the baby; I want someone to take care of me. I’m scared of being alone and exhausted and uncomfortable and overwhelmed right off the bat.
But that’s why I have 6-8 weeks to work it out, yes?
The feminist movement is generally periodized into the so-called first, second and third waves of feminism. In the United States, the first wave is characterized by the suffragette movement; the second wave is characterized by the formation of the National Organization for Women, abortion rights politics, and the fight for the Equal Rights Amendments. Suddenly, during the third wave of feminism, women of colour make an appearance to transform feminism into a multicultural movement.
This periodization situates white middle-class women as the central historical agents to which women of colour attach themselves. However, if we were to recognize the agency of indigenous women in an account of feminist history, we might begin with 1492 when Native women collectively resisted colonization. This would allow us to see that there are multiple feminist histories emerging from multiple communities of colour which intersect at points and diverge in others. This would not negate the contributions made by white feminists, but would de-center them from our historicizing and analysis.
Indigenous feminism thus centers anti-colonial practice within its organizing. This is critical today when you have mainstream feminist groups supporting, for example, the US bombing of Afghanistan with the claim that this bombing will free women from the Taliban (apparently bombing women somehow liberates them).